This post of mine is all about development of the positive attitude, u see a glass containing some water; How to promote the attitude of think'n "The glass is half full" rather than having the first thought of "The glass is half empty"! I want to mention something from my experience; environment has little impact on ur thoughts; its YOUR thoughts, your POINT OF VIEW whiche shapes the environment for you. Its just like you are reading a text message over cell phone which has no emoticon or smiley stuff, its gonna b either funny cuz u had already a mind set of funniness right at that moment or a taunt!
Now back to the development part; starting by using the cliche "Everything has two sides, two opinions, two point of views; positive or negative", its YOU who chooses the point, either u take a disaster as a blessing in disguise or consider a lil bit more love and caring from your parents as a disaster:p ... point is; you are the one to choose. So lets get started :)) !
There is ALWAYS a Positive Point:
Remember, this world is the best example of BALANCE. If there are good things, then there are bad things; (here is also a positive thing in that because you come to know the importance of light only in the absence of light in the dark, the bad things are there to enhance the definition of good things... :) ) !
So if you are having a bad experience, learn from it; if you had a loss, learn the DON'Ts! because learning DON'Ts is always more profitable than learning DOs. The reason is simple, by applying DOs one MAY or MAY NOT get the benefit but applying DON'Ts, one is SURE enough to save oneself from the bad consequences.
So always take initiative and don't be afraid from failures. Face the FEAR!
Its Always for My own Good!
According to the Islamic teachings, it is said, observed and experienced that whatever happens, happens for your own good because Human is none the wiser about the outcomes, its own future, he/she can try to pursue the dreams but ALLAH KNOWS the Best for him/her. I want to quote few personal experiences of mine;
I wanted to be in Pakistan Army, i took their final selection test twice but they i got non-recommended both of the time. I was very much dedicated towards Pakistan Armed forces but i couldn't. I was initially disappointed, but after some time i experienced lifetime experiences, met very good and charming people and now living a life with ambitions in mind.
Another example will be from you.
Take a minute, think what you've really strived for and couldn't get it.
then, think what could've lost something good if you got it. (its not that hard, b positive; thts the whole point :P )
Don't Blame Others!
Its an old saying that "A bad workman always blames his own tools", Dnt be a looser. Be a real winner and say that's my fault; but it doesn't mean that its always gonna be your fault. Atleast be honest with your self.
Dr. Allama M. Iqbal, the national Poet and a visionary philosopher said :
Paani paani kar gayee mujh ko qalandar ki ye baat
Tu agar maira nahiN banta na ban, apna to ban
English Translation (The point of the QALANDAR (Monk) made me so ashamed of myself; If you can't be a faithful with me,atleast be faithful to your ownself)
You must a self-accountable. Know yourself, urself. You must keep in mind that it always takes two to make a quarrel. What sort of vital role played by you in the whole consequences. Believe me, it solves alot of problems and issues.
HAVE A FAITH ON ALLAH
This point must've raised at the first but it has even a stronger impact in this place. In the QURAN, ALLAH told us that "No Doubt ALLAH has control over everything" again and again. Dr. Allama M. Iqbal emphasized over this point again and again that the Muslim (i must say Momin) has no fear because he/she knows that ALLAH is with him/her because he/she has a strong believe on oneself.
Just give it a try; Keep a strong thought in mind that ALLAH has the whole control and HE is the ONE to CHANGE the whole world within a blink of an eye and HE will SOLVE your problem instantaneously, dnt let ur thoughts wander, jst have a faith and then experience that change, the very change i experienced and experiencing MASHALLAH!
HAVE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE !
Remember, its you who define the fullness or emptiness of the glass containing water. Initially its gonna b a bit difficult but u can do it! Yes u can do iT!!! tht's the whole thing. Believe in yourself, be yourself. Always consider the following points.
In a desperate situation, don't Loose hope. Hazrat Ali (R.A.) quoted "Getting Sad in a problematic situation is a problem itself!"
Where there is a will, there is always a way; a better way, with better promises, which u can't compare with the benefits which you apparently seek.
That's all for now !
MAY ALLAH BLESS HIS Bless'ns UPON US !
